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People hold their friends and romantic relationships to different standards. For example, some people will put up with emotional abuse from their friends but not with their partner and vice versa. What some don’t realize is that friendships can come to an end like any other relationship. They have this misconception that “friendships” are forever lasting and can’t be broken. Though people grow, change, or can become distant. What I tell people is that if it no longer serves you or brings positivity into your life, get rid of it.
A “toxic” person can be described as someone who is selfish, takes advantage of you, always seeks favors from you and gossips behind your back. They are the people who constantly put you down so that they can build their ego. These are not people you want to be surrounded by during your lifetime. This seems like a simple concept to grasp but can be quite difficult since some friendships are known as habitual. This is where they hold onto the “length of the friendship” as justification for why they keep putting up with one another. For instance, “Yes, she only hits me up when she’s bored and doesn’t talk to me when she’s with her other group of friends, but we’ve known each other since we were babies so it’s not like I can just cut her off.” Well yeah, you most definitely can…I know I have. There is no written rule telling you that you have to hang onto that relationship if they are treating you wrong. If you have brought up that the way they make you feel is hurtful, they haven’t made the change to fix it, and still find yourself oppressed by it, here are a couple of tips you can do to cut that toxicity out of your life.
𝔻𝕖𝕝𝕖𝕥𝕖, 𝔻𝕖𝕝𝕖𝕥𝕖, 𝔻𝕖𝕝𝕖𝕥𝕖!🖥
I am not usually one to be petty and unfollow/block a person on social media unless they completely do something to lose all my respect. I have come to realize that having any type of lingering social media presence is only going to serve as a temptation to stalk, which is only going to lead to you feeling guilty and bad about yourself. This negates the purpose of separating from the toxic relationship in the first place, which is to make you feel better. Delete anything that reminds you of them. Whether it be pictures, texts, social media pages, or any other form in which you are digitally connected to the person.
𝕄𝕒𝕜𝕖 ℕ𝕖𝕨 𝔽𝕣𝕚𝕖𝕟𝕕𝕤👫
When you get out of a romantic relationship, everyone around you will try to persuade you to date again. This goes for ending toxic friendships as well. You need to get back in the market and find new people to invest time in. When you’re not doing so, you can find yourself becoming lonely, depressed, and spiraling into old, bad habits. Surround yourself with those who love and bring you happiness. You will be less likely to miss the person who mistreated you.